Posts Tagged ‘love’

The Power of “Dad”

Sunday, June 18th, 2017

I’m one of the lucky ones.  Although I seldom see my Dad (too late to teach him Skype. he’s 88 and lives 4 hours away by plane), I can often summon up and savour moments of his love instantly.

Oh how he longs for my safety, health, and happiness as I do for him.  He expresses his love simply, clearly, and often, regardless if we’re on the phone or in person.

Sometimes he catches me off guard.  His timing is not during those special celebrations anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, but when we are alone together, just the two of us.  I’d like to think my siblings also have this special time with him, too.

He tells me he counts the days before I visit them in Calgary.  And once I’m there, we would go for our morning walks on our regular route and stop in for our senior’s coffee at the Golden Arches.  We always take a selfie before heading home.

Sometimes after a drive and I’ve dropped him off at their condo, spend 5 minutes checking my phone for messages, and about to drive off again to meet a friend. I would see him standing still in the front lobby waiting to wave and see me off.

In the morning, I would ask him how was his sleep and he would tell me how well he sleeps when I’m there.

We share the same love for and watch the Raptors on TV while yelling, laughing, and cheering so loudly that my Mom would say, ‘they can’t hear you!” which makes us laugh even harder.

I’ll be calling him today and we’ll have “our talk” which is a bit of a guessing game because he dislikes wearing his hearing aid at home.  Nonetheless to hear his voice makes me happy and I pray that I get to hear him loud and clear till the next Father’s Day.



The Greater Good

Friday, December 30th, 2016

The end is near.  2016 – over and OUT! It cannot come soon enough. As Mom predicted, this Year of the Monkey was indeed light on good karma and at times, filled with shock and awe, even terror. Trump terror.

Where was the love?

I decided to dig deep. Here’s the good, the bad, and the greater good for December 2016:

The Greater Good

The Apology – Inspiration, admiration, motivation from Ms. Tiffany Hsiung, a star film maker in the making.

The Chris Haas Story – Pride, validation, admiration of a job well done by my client who started his journey with uncertainty and trepidation. He created a perfect gift out of his gift of good intention.

Rickshaw Bar  – Creativity, curiosity, crafted by talented Chef Noureen.  We’ve been to the same destinations near (Toronto & Chicago) and far (Dar Es Salaam, Nairobi).  I started when I was 28.  She is 28!  Lucky Chef Noureen!

The Good

Collateral Beauty – Storytelling, grief, pain pre-screened in VIP seats with complimentary appetizers, popcorn, and booze with my bosom buddies courtesy of CFCcreates complete with tissues for tears!

Flamenco -Style, stamina, sweat on stage where art, movement, and passion merge and showed aging can be beautiful, sometimes more than youth.

Non-Gig – Instinct, trust, belief – drawn from the past and this time, knowing what I don’t know.  When values just don’t align, no matter how you cut it, so you sigh and walk away. quickly. confidently.

Learning – Ask, probe, ponder but ask good questions to the right people at the right time.  Just ask, easy but hard.

Playing – Squash camaraderie, at times, competitiveness with comedy, and being injury-free after 4 long years…other than aging.

EatingLa Tazza Cafe, cheap and cheerful, heaping plates of chicken curry, chicken roti, butter chicken – lunch for 2 under $20 shared with my Toronto Bro, one of my fav people.  Playa Cabana, celebrating my Toronto Sistah’s 60th birthday, mixing Mex with mirth!  Barque, its bite(s) is better than its bark for an early Christmas dinner celebration with my techie best friends with ribs, brisket, pulled pork, wings … mountains of meat!

The Bad

Travelling – By air this holiday season, delay upon delay, sandwiched helplessly for 4 hours, anxious about my carry-on full of gifts (which fits fine on any airline anywhere in the world EXCEPT for Air Canada) because ol’ Hawk Eyes at the gate wrestled it out of my hands and tagged it for cargo but will it reach Calgary?, not to mention the added wait at the carousel AND then we have snow, lots and lots of snow, day and night, night and day.

I’m ready to ring in the new year and the Year of The Rooster!

Latest Update: Air Canada made good with goodwill gesture of 20% discount on base fare. Thank you for listening and Happy New Year to you, Air Canada! Oh, and yes, my carry-on in cargo made it to Calgary…in time for Christmas.




Love is Such a Small Word

Sunday, June 30th, 2013

But in New York City, Love is even larger than Life!

Definitely I have been having a long love affair with NYC since the early 90’s. Making the mad scramble to MOMA, walking The High Line for hours, going for my morning run in Central Park, NYC has a heartbeat like no other. You can find L-O-V-E in all shapes and sizes, big or small!

The Year of The Dragon

Friday, March 9th, 2012

No Loves Lost followers take heart! I’ve been away on a “vacation” from love, a bit of a sabbatical although I did post love sightings on Twitter.

Kicking off the Year of the Dragon February 23, 2012, we know the highly compatible signs for Dragons – Tigers, Snakes, Horses, Pigs. But those extremely compatible are Rats and Monkeys! It takes someone tough, clever, or extremely easy-going to be a Dragon’s partner, because, despite their deep-down sentimentality and their irresistibility, they can be rude, moody, and downright insensitive.

Is that true with your Dragon friends (those born in 2000, 1988, 1976, 1964, 1952…) ?

The Water Dragon (born this year) is more sensitive to others and more cooperative than their other elemental Metal, Wood, Fire, and Earth Dragons. They are better able to stand back from things and take an objective view of the situation. Thus they make wise judgements and much more prepared to see eye-to-eye with other people.

People love Dragons because they are warm and generous, charismatic, and irrisistibly attractive, and strong and courageous. They fall in love at the drop of a hat but are in no hurry to give up their independence and many remain single! But if you are an intelligent, witty, and amusing companion, you may well intrigue the Dragon enough to make them want to commit. And once they do, they are unlikely to ever roam again!

Passage Du Desir

Thursday, March 24th, 2011

Spring arrived so much sooner in the world’s romance capital, Paris.  Spent six blissful days looking for love.  Ooo la la…upon my return to YYZ, inquiring minds wanted to know all. 

What they must do is follow my footsteps in The Marais and then through the Passage Du Desir to find the answers.  No loves lost…only found!

Love of Mine

Monday, March 1st, 2010

Where are you? 

Swimming in a sea with plenty of fish, plunging into a pool of lava, singing in harmony, or playing with matches?

On-line daters have an amazing array of sites to seek and also to be found.

For Toronto Singles, check , a detailed slice-and-dice on demographics!

You’ve got:

  • personality – lengthy questionnaires or fill in the blanks,
  • priorities –  seeking fun and casual or meaningful and lasting,
  • activities – cooking, skiing, strolling, lunching, wine-tasting, etc.,
  • speed –  in a hurry, 5 minutes or in a blink, 5 seconds,
  • and math, the perfect algorithm: 1 + THE 1 = L-O-V-E !

Love Mathematically

Sunday, February 14th, 2010

Is it a numbers game? Looking for a needle in a haystack?

What are the odds of finding love in the world of on-line dating?  

Here’s how four Harvard mathematicians can help you do the math:

How do I leave thee?

Monday, January 25th, 2010

Let me count the ways when they say, “I’d like to see you again.”

1. Gently, “it’s me, not you, I’m too (fill in any adjective – crazy, boring, busy cleaning my sock drawer, etc etc) .”

2. Diplomatically, “Sorry, we’re not compatible.”

3. Efficiently, “I don’t want to waste your time.”

4. Emphatically, “Absolutely NOT!”

Or you can try this rather tidy exit, tried and true by one of my clients:
“Ms. Fabulous Fitness” meets another “Mr. Maybe” for a walk – no coffee, no drink, just a walk. As they’re walking and talking, she decides that “Mr. Maybe” is really “Mr. No Way”.

So she walks faster and faster…..well, you can guess..The End.