Archive for July, 2011

DWOs – When Hope Is All There Is

Friday, July 29th, 2011

“Dating While Olders” say that when it comes down to dating hope is all there is. Check The Chicago Tribune
http://www.chicagotribune.com/features/tribu/sc-fam-0712-dating-dead-zone-20110713,0,3377918.story
where experts say DWOs are in a far better position than those in their 20’s.

Post 30’s dating has definite benefits. Says biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, “DWOs have a better sense of yourself and what you want…, attracting people who are more interested in you…, less likely to be looking for love in all the wrong places.”

Increase the odds by meeting through mutual friends, on-line dating, or doing something interesting – wine-tasting, photography, or music. It’s the numbers game. “Ask yourself where a man who is settled in life might go,” advises Whitney Case, author of “The Man Plan” and simply go there. Why not? Makes good sense. It’s where the boyz are!

Two Flickers + One Flame

Sunday, July 17th, 2011

Back to present day reality and dealing with dating dilemmas…MIAs, a floating category, separate and aside from “dumped”.

Mr. Rude Dude skated around the issue; left without a peep, without a trace, without a doubt. At the other end of the spectrum, Mr. Impeccable Manners addressed it up close and personal and said, “Sorry, I’m much too (you choose):
a. busy
b. ambitious
c. young
c. all of the above (check)
to see you again (his words), let alone dabble in a summer dalliance (my words).

Kudos to Mr. IM for being tactful, truthful, and timely. But only a mere shrug and a sigh to Mr. RD for being silent. But both are barely a flicker to The Flame – in previous entry.

And my answer to “Does absence make the heart grow fonder?” is no, not at all. What absence does is make the heart grow wiser.

Does Absence Make the Heart Grow Fonder?

Thursday, July 14th, 2011

Or is it “Out of sight, out of mind”? In my case, it was “Out of Africa”! Meryl Streep and Robert Redford we were not but the emotions were electric, just as fiery as these two prominent screen stars.

Fast forward to today (25 years later), Mr. Long-ago Love pinged me as he does now and again. But today, unlike his usual playful self, he seemed introspective as he wrote about the imminent loss of his 2nd Mom. Time stood still and for just a moment, I pondered and wondered how I felt such a close connection to a love far far away.

How would I answer the opening question? Stay tuned this weekend for an answer that surprised even me!